With grad school long since finished, all current
ASOFAI books read, a momentary stoppage on house projects with the completion of the front porch, and a corresponding increase in the regularity that workouts and runs occur, I decided that this weekend I would sit down and establish some goals. Mostly this meant coming up with things to do in my free time, but I've found it necessary to frame these things as "goals" so that I actually
do them rather than spend all my time laying on the couch reading. A little explicit commitment can go a long way toward not settling for the same-old same-old.
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Some of the items that made the short list came pretty easily to mind, and included "Take one course in a language by the end of 2012" and "Run your fastest marathon yet by November of next year." But other possibilities were less sure, because goal-setting is actually tricky business, believe it or not. For example, I considered making it a goal to update the blog at least once every two weeks for the coming year. A respectable goal, right? But by defining a goal like that, am I not in a way discouraging myself from updating the blog
more than once every two weeks? I hate to think that the blog would become just another task to be checked off once the goal is completed, when it should really be something that serves as a natural outlet for creativity and thinking, and something that provides real enjoyment. The blog should not be a "job," and it seems that harnessing it with a goal would put it into that realm.
It seems to me that another way goals can become a double-edged sword and accidentally limit one's efforts is by way of the timeframes we attach to goals. People naturally think of personal goals on a one-year timeframe, but why stop at one year? With my goal of starting to learn a new language, I'm purposefully saying "Take one course," but realistically this is only a starting point for something that will take
numerous years before there are really any results. If someone sets a goal for a year, does that mean at the end of the year they should quit on whatever they've started? On the other hand, it is true that breaking things into manageable chunks helps us to accomplish goals, so maybe a timeframe
less than one year would be more appropriate.
There really is a thin line between a goal that pushes your limits as intended and one that restricts you to doing less than you are capable of doing. My marathoning goal is mostly a matter of convenience. There are marathons all over the place now, but otherwise there's no good reason to stop at 26 miles. Why not 30? Why not 40? The 26-mile mark is set as the "finish line," but if I set the finish line at 30 miles I could probably make it. The weariness I'll feel as I approach 26 miles probably wouldn't be as bad if I was thinking in terms of going for another 4 miles. If I set the mark at 30, I may not feel the same level of exhaustion until mile 29. Obviously there are limits to this, but it's sometimes difficult to tell when the limits are psychological and self-imposed, and when you've really gone as far as you can go.
At this point you may have set an immediate goal of preventing yourself from gouging your eyes out as an involuntary reaction to this annoying flood of speculation and self-questioning. Let me assist you in achieving that goal by moving on to some less drivel-rich content...